dating an older man

7 Things To Consider Before Dating An Older Man

The Construction Of Age Barrier

Having a relationship with an older man can be more than just a little intimidating. You may feel like you’re too young for him, or that he’s too old for you. But it’s important to be aware of the benefits of dating someone older. Older men are more likely to be polite and mature in relationships. You might find them to be more emotionally intelligent, patient, and attentive than their younger counterparts. But this does not still guarantee this older man is perfect for you. If you are in this situation, confused about if dating an older man is okay, then these following tips will help you know if dating an older man (the one on your mind right now) is best. 

Are you attracted to him?

The first thing to consider when you want to date an older man is your feeling. A relationship is not only about money, other things are important too unless you want your man to be choking you. So, before you date an older man in your 2os, are you satisfied with his personality and how he looks? Do you love and miss him most of the time? Be sure of these answers before considering to say yes to a man 10 years or more, older than you.

Do you really know him?

If you have been dating for some time, don’t make a rash decision. Yes, you want to jump into the unknown, but be sure of the details. You need to know how he dresses, his style, and grooming if you can handle him. You also need to learn how he thinks, what he cares about, how he behaves in public and in private. This will make you really sure of his character and would allow you to freely know if you should choose him or not.

Can he provide for you?

When he is older than you plus 10 or more of your age, it is obvious that he is mature and has all the money. So, he should definitely be able to take care of you for a long time. However, if he is not financially stable to support you, then what is the point of dating him? What would you expect of him? Why not date a young man instead of dating an older man that is not financially stable?

Thinking about this is especially important if you are financially independent. Think about it; if you are putting yourself in a situation where he could easily use you financially because he is older, then it is rather stupid. The old adage says, a person that is not able to provide for himself will not be able to provide for another.

Is he in a committed relationship?

An older man should not be single at this age. But since he told you he is single, why could he be single? Has he dated some women in the past? What led to their breakups? Somehow, most old men usually have who they should be dating. So, thinking and asking him these questions Is the only chance to learn more about him and his life. He could be happily married, but because he wants to cheat, he is still single and is looking for the right girl for him. You should be on the lookout, and ask around to see if he has something special.

If he is not in a relationship, he may be cheating on his partner. Also, he could be seeing several women. So, you have to be careful.

Does he have your best interests at heart?

Do you consider yourself to be an independent adult woman? If not, you could be easily hurt by older men. If he loves you so much, he should love you enough to take care of you. You should not have to worry about money or anything when you are with him. He should be a supportive person to you and not just another woman’s shadow. Also, he should not think about taking advantage of you or make you his slave. Instead he should care for you like no other men did to you.

Does he respect the girl code?

Dating an older man demands you to ask yourself these questions. Does he respect your right to know his background? Does he respect your right to know the men he dated in the past? Does he respect your rights to control his privacy? These are very important questions. However, if you feel uncomfortable at any time with him, you need to be able to move on. You could not settle for a man who does not respect you, your partner, and your family.

Is he stable?

Older men tend to have different attitudes and interests than your average male. Being stable means that he is a strong and healthy individual that he won’t depend on any thing other than himself.

Can he handle the different things you are going through, i.e., stress, tension, crazy work hours? Can he help you when you are in a mess or when you need some advice? These are some questions you should ask.

Maryam Awodele
Maryam Awodele

Hi, I'm Maryam

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